Why some people date with ease and confidence while some are awkward and reserved? If you find dating a hopeless idea, you might want to reconsider the habit successful date goers do in mating:
Successful date goers believe the potential of each person they see
If you have a preconceived impression telling yourself “This date might not work out,” you are sending a negative energy to yourself and to those around you. This can impact your self-esteem and behavior towards the person you’re about to meet by showing off lack of interest and confidence. But successful date goers bring a positive mindset. They have this impression for themselves that “This date could be it!” and this vibe and enthusiasm translates how they bring themselves out there. The moment they step into the date, they open their minds and they hear out what their date is communicating. They don’t judge the situation nor the person without being there yet. This attitude helps them assess whether there’s a potential match in the future.
Successful date goers accept if it doesn’t work out
If the date doesn’t turn out to be anything special, successful date goers accept it and their self-confidence remain intact. Their self-worth doesn’t lie on them finding the right person in a particular date; In turn, they don’t compromise their standards to the point of saying anything that seeks their date’s approval. They accept that some people aren’t just meant to click or match, they don’t take it against themselves, and they move on. Moreover, each encounter is a learning experience for oneself.
Successful date goers have a life outside of mating
They may long for romantic partnership, successful date goers don’t make it their world. They also have and enjoy other ties of connection outside dating such as family, close friendships and meaningful activities that better them. When you live an interesting and meaningful life other than finding suitable relationships, you attract like-minded people who will complement your already amazing life!
Successful date goers take care of themselves… in all aspects
The more you take care of yourself, the more you attract others. When you are upset, you know how to deal with it by talking to a friend or family. When you are gaining weight, you exercise and eat well to live a healthy lifestyle. When you need to upgrade your skills, you attend workshops and widen your social horizon. Taking care of oneself shows control and confidence which are attractive qualities of a date.
A Singaporean writer talks about dating lessons on herworldplus.com, the article tackled how people announce their fitness and career developments on Facebook, but never actually progressed their love life. Setting a goal about matters of the heart is a way of taking care of yourself, too!
Successful date goers don’t give up
Reality tells us that dating has its high and low moments, and sometimes it’s easier to throw in the towel than putting yourself out there again and again. But while this inevitably brings rejection, successful date goers take some time to patch their wounds and increase their self-love. Giving up isn’t their option, they just rest and go back to the dating market.
Successful date goers know where the right places are at
These people know exactly the profile of the person they’d love to meet. If they want someone who’s into healthy living, doing sports of some sort like running, they know that for them to find these qualities, this specific event is filled with people I’m looking for. And that means joining running marathons or fun run. It’s a way for them to save time and frustration in meeting a person that doesn’t generally meet their preferences.
Successful date goers meet more people as they can
It may not necessarily mainly due to romantic intentions, but these people know the value of socialization and who knows, it could lead to their right one!
Many people say that this is the “social media” era. The world has become a place where everything is influenced by social media. No one can underestimate its grasp. What is good about social media is the easy proliferation of information. However, the bad side is how this information will be used. Everyone has the responsibility to use information for good causes.
Speaking of bad side, when children are being exposed to social media, they tend to overdo it especially without parental guidance. Many Singaporean parents are showing concern. With this, it is important that you think about maximizing your parental control over social media. How will you do this? First, you have to curb their usage of the most popular social media platform on earth – Facebook.
Here is a guide in restricting Facebook access to your children’s smartphones:
On their iPhones
If your children have iPhones, you have to know everything about it. Do not let your kids know more than you do because if that is the case, they will simply adjust the restriction and you will end up just fooling yourself.
Go to “Settings” under the “General” section. Look for the “Restrictions” button and then choose “Enable Restrictions” (this is just on top of the screen). Once you are here, do not be surprised as you will be prompted to set up 4-digit passcode. Slide the button to “Off”. If you do not want your children to install Facebook, just tap the “Installing Apps” to “Off”.
On their Android
If your children are using Android phones, you can also restrict Facebook access. You just need to open the “Google Play Store”. Look for the “Application Settings” and then set PIN for purchases. This is effective as your child cannot install apps that you do not approve (in this case including Facebook).
If you want to make sure, you can choose to avail an app that has the power to lock or block other apps. At the end of the day it is your choice.
Note that the tips provided above are for smartphones. What will happen if your children are out and you cannot monitor their usage in school or other places? The best thing that you can do is to explain why you need to restrict or curb their usage. You need to teach your children how to behave safely and appropriately on the internet regardless of the platform they use so whether you are there or not, they will know how to handle it.